This line really struck me in your consistently insightful piece. So true! Equal splits aren't agonized over for childcare or housework or emotional labor. In those cases women should be doing 80 percent! I also was struck by the video you included of Jordan Peterson crying about lonely men. Like I read in a Lacie Lou story on Fourth Wave recently, women have been lonely for a long time, even within some marriages, but there was never a media outcry about a women's loneliness epidemic. Perhaps because they don't go out and kill people when they are upset.