The sexual revolution of the 70s felt like a scam to me, a way to shame women into having sex or risk being called backwards and a prude. It certainly had that effect on me and friends my age, who couldn't even recognize when we were date raped or that it was wrong.

I align with Dworkin in thinking that porn is bad for women, and also bad for the men who want to partner with them. How can images of women being degraded not be harmful? It takes a lot of mental gymnastics to not see what's in front of your nose. Finland outlawed porn at one point when the government was led by women. I'd be interested in reading an analysis of what happened after that.

As to feeling sympathy for Elliot Rodgers? Not possible for me. Women are horny too and attracted to some men and not others, but they don't try to get the men they want by force or violence. No one has a right to sex. If you can't find a willing partner, masturbate. Or make yourself more attractive by taking a shower and not acting like a dick.

As to re-wiring our desires to align with our politics, I haven't had much success with that. What works better for me is forgiving myself for "bad" fantasies and nudging them closer to ones I can accept. My current theory is my sexual preferences and perversions were hard-wired into me when I was a child.

In the end, I'm guessing sex is just as good and as bad as it ever was. It's never going to be great all the time.