That's so true, Aza. Moms are another breed. They/we will put up with anything, it seems! I was in a group for awhile with other mothers like me--of people with major mental illnesses or drug addictions. You wouldn't believe the stories I heard. In a way, it was encouraging, to know I'm not the only one. And the leader of the group suggested just what Mark suggests--leave them to their own devices. Maybe they will learn. Maybe they will make better choices--to take their meds or not do drugs. It's possible. Sometimes it happens. And sometimes it feels like my son does what he does specifically to punish me. So maybe if I'm not in the picture...? I don't know. But I would definitely love that spa day you describe, with good soup and good bread and a soothing pool. Ahhh...