Thanks for reading, Stephen. Good luck in your marriage. Perhaps if you ask for help? Even if you don’t believe in God, sometimes asking for guidance puts you in the right frame of mind to see things differently. This is how I pray every morning. It helps me find my way in my difficult relationships. https://medium.com/writing-heals/how-i-pray-e8299207944a?source=friends_link&sk=c0ee2b856da256db1dbfab9e7a1acc52