Thank you for your take! I respect and am glad to receive your opinion. That's amazing re: your parents! I guess if you keep knocking your head on the wall long enough, eventually you make a hole! Hahahah! Just kidding. We counseled weekly for some time and then twice a month for two years in total and eventually quit because of the cost. We were paying out of pocket for our excellent therapist. It's astonishing how long it takes and how hard headed we both could be, each refusing to validate the other's perspective. But Claudio, our counselor, just kept nudging and nudging and eventually we could see some light. *Big sigh of relief* We are having much fewer disagreements. And the last time we had one, it lasted only a couple of hours instead of a couple of days. Hallelujiah!