Thank you for sharing your experience. I still think we'd be much better off if we taught all children how to be good people--not good women or good men. Suggesting boys need to be tough and dominant in order to be real men limits the ways they can deal with disappointment and frustration and causes them to use violence--it's the only thing men are allowed. If they cry or want to talk or get counseling, they're called effeminate, which is an insult. Life is frustrating and disappointing and people need to learn how to deal with that in ways that aren't destructive. I'm not saying all men are tough and all women are sweet. Your wife is an example of the exception to the rule. But we are still teaching gender roles that limit men and women both and that's why our society is so violent.