It's interesting that doctors will tell us to lose weight indiscriminately--regardless of the ailment. I wonder if any studies have been done on the health harms done to women by being harassed on the street and at home. My guess is the stress reduction you've gained has more than offset any harms from weight gain. In fact, older women (and men) are bigger worldwide. That leads me to believe it's natural, and even may provide a bit of protection in older age.