It sounds like there is a lot of pressure to get married in your community. Where I live, in the San Francisco Bay Area, it's okay for women to stay single if they wish. There's still pressure to partner up, but it's subtle and not universal. When my granddaughter grows up, I will support her choices, whatever they may be. The point for me is that she recognizes her own worth as a human being--not as just a helper for a man or a child. All people have worth and the right to live their own life in a way that makes them happy, in my opinion.