I'm not going to divorce my husband but if I find myself widowed in the future I won't be looking for another man. For me, the problem is "mansplaining." I feel observed and supervised in my relationship in a way that's annoying. I'm able to leave him be without commenting on everything he does, but he seems to naturally want to weigh in on my activities, something that’s been happening more during the pandemic when we’re together almost 24/7. I realize that women can be “supervisorial,” too, but I think it's more common in men. We're working on it! :p