I think you've mixed up feminism with BDSM, which is fine if you like that sort of thing, but has nothing to do with equality for women. Here's the literal definition of feminism: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/feminism Those who claim feminism is something else are trying to discredit the movement because...they're dumb asses? I have no idea why anyone would be against treating women like human beings. It's just preposterous to me.