I read a story awhile back about a white mom influencer who had adopted a Chinese boy with her husband and later gave him back. She got a lot of hate for that. I don't know if she's still showing off her "perfect" life online these days. It's a reminder that things are often not what they seem. I'm glad your children found you. It's a hard, hard job to raise a child with mental health or behavioral problems. It sounds like you have a particular skill and a big strong heart. Bless you and your many children.