I am so glad you want the kind of strength that allows you to speak up, because I love hearing what you have to say. This story reminds me of a time awhile back when a friend told me I was argumentative. I was baffled, because I am not that. When I mentioned it to another friend, she was baffled, too. Still I tried to think about why he would say that, and then I realized that it was probably because I don't like to be told what to do, especially not by a man. It's funny that it took me a few more years to understand that comment was sexist! He found me "argumentative" because I am not submissive. I don't blindly go along with the program that others (like my husband) lay out. To me, that is a strength and an asset. That's not being argumentative, that's being true to myself.